Matthew 5:9 "Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God."
The Murdock Bible Translation says, "Blessed are the cultivators of peace: for they shall be called sons of God!" Cultivator is a good word for peacemaker. A peacemaker is someone who values peace and will work to encourage, and develop peace between people who are at odds with each other. The peacemaker will also work to keep anything from destroying the peace between family members, co-workers, friends, and church members. This person does not do this by trying to control or manipulate others. They do this by first going to God and asking for His guidance. Then they listen for His promptings and guiding as they deal with the people who are not getting along. They also live a life of getting along with others and by their actions they plant "seeds" of peace and through their kindness they nurture those "seeds" to grow. They are cultivating peace.
The peacemaker is a wise person. They know when to be quiet and when to say something. There are times when being quiet is the best way to keep peace among people. Then there are times when it is necessary to speak up and gently point out to someone when that person is being destructive or hurtful. They don't give in to the desire to justify their actions or words in the name of religion. The peacemaker is honest with themselves. They take a good look at what they're about to do and how it will affect the other people. If their actions could harm someone else, they will find another way to deal with the situation. The peacemaker doesn't use sarcasm, hurtful words, or bring up the past sins of others. They recognize that God's love and grace extends to all who will except it, and in recognizing that fact, they will show grace and love to others.
When things don't go their way, the peacemaker doesn't start arguing, or complaining of unfairness. If someone is unkind to them, they don't retaliate. They gracefully suffer the unkindness or unfairness without telling anyone else of it. They just go to God and ask for His help and let God handle it.
This seems an impossible task, but it isn't. I have been blessed to live closely with someone who demonstrates this. I'm a quick tempered person and have strong desires to retaliate against anyone who is unkind to me or to any of my loved ones. I have seen this person deal with some of those same situations by remaining kind and pleasant to the offending person. This person does not go around telling others of the unkindness shown them. They just take it quietly and leave it to God to deal with. They know that to fight back or tell others could only make matters worse. They know that to tell others could cause bad relations between other people and hurt the offending person rather than help them correct their ways. Just by their actions, they have taught me about being meek and a peacemaker. They are cultivating peacemaking in me. It's not an easy task to for them, and I'm slow at learning, but I can see that it is possible to be a peacemaker. With God in control of our lives and actions, it is possible.
"Let your gentleness be known to all men. The Lord is at hand." Philippians 4:5
"I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." Philippians 4:13