Colossians 3:12 You are the people of God; he loved you and chose you for his own. So then, you must clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.
Nothing makes a person more attractive than the kind of person described in the text above. There is a feeling of tranquility when with such a person. These are not qualities reserved for women. This text was meant for men also. I've met both men and women with these qualities and have found that while they're usually very busy people, they manage to do their work with a calm, unruffled attitude and still have time to help others. I've also found that these people are never lacking for friends as others are constantly drawn to them.
I've been blessed with such friends. Friends who helped without my having to ask them. Even when it meant changing their plans for the day, they patiently and kindly helped me with whatever it was I needed, never once making me feel as if I owed them for their kind acts. I've known people who always find the good in each person they meet and genuinely enjoy their time with each one. They never act as if they are doing the person a favor or appear as if they are better than the one they are helping. They are following what Romans and Galatians says.
Romans 12:16 “Have the same concern for everyone. Do not be proud, but accept humble duties. Do not think of yourselves as wise.”
Galatians 6:2, 3 “Stoop down and reach out to those who are oppressed. Share their burdens, and so complete Christ's law. If you think you are too good for that, you are badly deceived.”
I asked a friend, who was raised in another country, how her parents taught her to treat others. She said, “Always put others before your own needs.” This is wise counsel but can be taken too far, so there needs to be a balance. We find that balance in Christ's life. He gave of himself constantly to others, but was wise enough to know that He needed time alone with His Father. He also knew He and His disciples needed go somewhere quiet for a rest. Without the dependence on God and time to rest, the body and mind will break down. Therefore put others first, but keep a healthy balance in serving others.
Ephesians 4:2 “ Be always humble, gentle, and patient. Show your love by being tolerant with one another.”
Gentleness and humility shouldn't be reserved just for those who act and think like ourselves, but should be shown to EVERYONE. Rather than being critical of someone's beliefs or how they're dressed, it is better to be tolerant with them. A critical spirit never attracts anyone toward God, but an attitude of compassion, patience, and humility is very attractive and difficult to resist. Our job is to clothe ourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Only God can change a heart. Leave the changing to Him.